One of the few things we all have in common is that we will experience trials and tribulations through out our lives. What differs is the type of trials we face, and how long we go through those trials, but never the less, we all go through them at some point in our lives. Depending on how you handle trials, it can either make you or break you. The important thing is to remind ourselves what a purpose of a trial is. For one, trials have to be looked as a learning lesson. Some things God has to pull out of you by allowing you to go through some things. Trials can become the birth of your ministry, and trials can reveal some things about you that you need to work on. Either way, while trials can be uncomfortable, it its meant to build you up in the long run. But what if you keep going through the same thing over and over again, or it seems like your trial will never end. Realize that in order for God to take you to the next level, you have to show that you have matured through the current trial. So if you find yourself stuck in a situation, then you have to look at what exactly God is trying to show you, pull out of you, or instill in you so that he can bring you through it. You have to learn the lesson from that trial in order to be removed from it and to show yourself approved onto God. Have a blessed day. James 1:12





I have apparently not leaned the lesson that is being taught. I still find my self living in a stressful relationship and disharmaony in the household. I sometime think the majkor problem is the passion is gone. This may not be so, but I have dealt with a trying situatuion for a long time. I know people change on you but when do you really know, when it is time to pack up and go? NO physical abuse, is involved, just a lack of respect and a constant barrage of you are the cause of all the problemss. We cannot seam to get on one acord other than I CANNOT ACCEPT BLAME FOR ALL OF THE DISSATTISFACTION EXPRESSED. There are health issuse involved and a sitution of crowding? When do you know when to move according to the will of “God”? Or do you justwait unfullfilled?
Hello Donald, thanks so much for your post. Based on what you said, there are a lot of things happening in the home that is taking a toll on your family. What I can say is as the held of your house hold, you have to be the example. What I mean by this is while there is blame being tossed in your direction for everything, as frustrating as that can be, you still have to show love and respect and respond in a loving manner towards your wife and whoever else is in your house hold. Now first hand that is very hard to do because our flesh wants to do something totally different. But that is the thing you have to pray about and also pray that your family will do as well. Because it simply an attack on your family and Satin is using the weaknesses in your wife and others to try to break you down. Refer to Ephesians 6:12. Now that you know where the real issue is, it time to address it at its source. Leaving out of a marriage is never the answer unless there is physical violence or infidelity has occurred. I think with you, its a matter of doing what God has called you to do and to be as a husband and leader of your house hold (which is not easy) or getting out of the way of a challenging situation. But it all begins with your mindset. Because everybody in your house hold is looking towards you. The first thing you do change your mindset. You have to think good thoughts and be positive, even in the mist of chaos. Because when your wife sees this, she will then realize that she will also have to change her ways. Sometimes the best way to reach somebody is not through words, but through example. So read Phillipians 4:8 to deal with the source the issues stated in Ephesians 6:12. And finally, continue to pray for Godly wisdom to deal with it. Because the reality it can wear and drain you, but you were made to endure anything that comes your way Romans 8:37. And then show that to your wife through your daily walk. And whatever anger you have towards your wife, forgiver her, continue to love her, even if there is no immediate turn around, because in doing so, you please God. Know that your joy comes from the Lord and not your wife or anybody else. God has to be the source of your Joy and Happiness in order for you to do all the things listed above. Hopefully this will give you a good start and I will pray for you as well. Keep in touch and God bless.